Roommates, Bad Dates, and Soul Mates

Roommates, Bad Dates, & Soulmates-Part 1

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Speaker

Dwight K. Nelson

Since 1983, Dwight Nelson has served as lead pastor of the Pioneer Memorial Church on the campus of Andrews University. He preaches on the “New Perceptions” telecast, teaches at the theological seminary and has written some books, including The Chosen. He and his wife, Karen, are blessed with two married children and 2 granddaughters.

Offering

Saturday, August 31, 2019
Program: 
Opening Music
Amazing Grace • Kenneth Logan
Choral Reflection
Blessed Are the Pure in Heart • Patrick Hawes
Songs of Praise
Better Is One Day • Your Name • Agnus Dei • In Christ Alone
Prayer
Rodlie Ortiz
Pioneer Life
GROW Groups
Children's Story
What a Friend We Have in Jesus • Robert Hobby & Kenneth Logan
Worship in Music
Hold On • Spiritual / John Tebay
Homily
"Roommates, Bad Dates & Soul Mates—1"
Dwight K. Nelson with Rebecca Puii Fanai, Alexander Hales, and William Dos Reis
Connect Card, Tithes & Offerings
Pioneer Operating Budget
Prayer of Commitment
The Lord's Prayer • Albert Hay Malotte
Benediction
Closing Music
Be My Vision • Traditional Irish

“Roommates, Bad Dates and Soul Mates”—1
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» Keep this in mind . . .

• Harry Nilsson—“One is the loneliest number . . .”

• Varun Soni, USC vice-provost: “What I have noticed in my work with students is that many of them face the same hidden root challenge: loneliness. . . . I never got the question in my first five years at USC that I now get almost daily from students: ‘How do I make friends?’” (www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-soni-campus-stufent-loneliness-20190...)

• US News & World Report—a study last year of 20,000 U.S. adults “found that nearly half felt lonely at least sometime. And only 53% said they had meaningful face-to-face interactions every day.”
(www.usnews.com/news/health-news/2019-03-11 ...)

• God: “‘It is not good for the man [Adam] to be alone; I will make a companion who can help him [Eve].’” (Genesis 2:18)

• Norway survey of 15,000 people discovered:

– For those 18-29—what matters in relationships is quantity (how many friends do I have?).

– But for those 30-64—what matters in relationships is quality (how deep are my friendships?). (www.greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_loneliness_changes_across_...)

• Stephen Johnson—ask these questions to find out if you have the relationships you need:

–  Do you have at least one person nearby whom you can call on in times of personal distress?

–  Do you have several people whom you can visit with little advance warning without apology?

–  Do you have several people with whom you can share recreational activities?

–  Do you have people who will lend you money if you need it, or those who will care for you in practical ways if the need arises? (In Friendship Factor 24)

» 4 Secrets to Growing Friendships

• Friendship Secret #1—Less of and more of . (Unselfishness)

– Jennifer Schwirzer: “We have all done it, and we have all suffered when others have done it. The monologuist fails to hold an actual conversation. They seem to thrive on the sound of their own voice.” (13 Weeks to Love 56)

• Alan McGuinnis: Ask yourself—

– Do we usually end up going to the restaurant or watch the movie I prefer?

– Do I enjoy correcting factual errors in other people’s conversations?

– Do I use humor to put down my friends?

– Do I have to know more about a topic than others to feel comfortable discussing it?(Friendship Factor 63)

– 1 Corinthians 13:5—“Love is not -seeking.”

• Friendship Secret #2—Let’s ! (Communication)

–  Les and Leslie Parrott (in their book), observe: “Consider this fact: Men say three times as many words in public as they do in private, while women say three times as many words in private as they do in public.” (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts 108)

–  Alan McGinnis: “There can be no intimacy without .” (Friendship Factor 105)

–  Luke 24:15—“[Cleopas and his friend] talked and discussed these things with .”

• Friendship Secret #3—Quit keeping . (Gift of a Good Forgetter)

–  Jacques Vaudre: “Keeping score belongs in competitive sports, not in a mutually supportive relationship. . . . The idea that love involves some sort of quid pro quo, is, at best, evidence of immaturity that needs to be outgrown. At worst, it is a distortion of love that turns two people into unhappy combatants vying for control.” (Six Dynamic Keys 120)

–  Matthew 6:12 NIV—“And forgive us our debts as we also [GK already forgiven our debtors.”

• Friendship Secret #4—I’m willing to so you can . (Self-sacrifice)

– The sacrificial love of a mother for her child

– John 15:13—“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s .”

 

Best Friends Forever

 

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Pathfinder Fundraiser

The Evergreen Pathfinder Club will hold a fall fundraiser where you'll have the opportunity to support our club by purchasing fresh fruits such as oranges, apples, pears, and other dried products. Stay tuned for details coming in the next few weeks!

Children’s Leadership Conference

The next Children’s Leadership Conference will take place on October 29th, 2022, 8:30 AM – 7:00 PM, at Chan Shun Hall, Andrews University. It is a one-day free in English & Spanish event focusing on Track 2: Teaching Children from the NAD Children’s Ministry Certification.

Register free here: https://www.cye.org/get-involved/mission-trips-events/childrens-ministry/general-information/
 

Love On The Move

COLLECTING NEW UNDERWEAR AND PAJAMAS OF ALL CHILD SIZES. God's Hands 4 Kids is a ministry that started as a PMC Grow Group. We work closely with  Berrien County DHHS. We maintain their "Closet" that has an inventory of clothes and other essentials that are available to workers 24/7. Many kids come into care with nothing except what they have on. We are currently collecting new underwear and pajamas. There is a collection bin in the lower PMC lobby. Items can be dropped off at RMES. We have other local 24/7 drop-off locations. Contact with us can be made through GH4K.org. Join our FaceBook page - God's Hands 4 Kids Foster...

 

Volunteers Needed for Fellowship Dinner Teams

Pioneer's fellowship dinner teams need additional members to help with the Sabbath fellowship dinners. Teams serve about three times a year. You don't need to know how to cook to be on a team. There are many ways you can be involved and enjoy the ministry together. Contact the church office at 269-471-6565 to sign-up.

Fellowship Dinner

Members with last names Abriot-Byrd have been invited to bring a dish to share and join the fellowship dinner this Sabbath. The dinner is held in the Commons on the lower level immediately following second worship service. Visitors are always welcome. 

Fall Hayride

The Family Life Committee invites you to Pioneer's Annual Hayride, returning after a two-year hiatus! Join us for rides through the woods, refreshments, a bonfire, and warm fellowship. Sunday, October 9, 6-8 PM at Five Pines Ministries, Berrien Center. Enjoy the beauty of fall with your Pioneer family!

Offering for October 1, 2022

Pioneer Operating Budget

Bear Fruits

John 15:4 “Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.”

We worship God with our resources as a response to the call to bear fruits. John the Baptist appealed to those who were coming to him for baptism: “Produce fruit in keeping with your repentance.” (Matt. 3:8). For John, baptism and being part of God’s people were not sufficient. The Gospel of Luke shares some concrete examples of the “fruit of our repentance” that John the Baptist gave to those who came to him. He asked the tax collector not to collect any more than was required. He exhorted the soldiers not to “extort money” and “be content with your pay.” And he commanded the crowd to share their second shirt and food with the one who does not have (Lk. 3: 10-14). These examples reported by Luke have something in common; they are related to one’s attitudes towards finances and material possessions. Fruit of our repentance means being careful about how we use our resources, making sure to bless and not harm others. 

The Bible tells the story of a man, Nabal, a son of Abraham who was heavily blessed but did not bear fruit of repentance in his material life. He refused to reward those who protected his flock and would harshly rebuke the servants of David who came to ask for some food. This attitude led his wife to call him wicked and to make the following comment: “He is just like his name—his name means Fool, and folly goes with him” (1 Sam. 25:25). Sadly, the following day, he had a stroke. Ten days later, he died.

As we reflect on the need to bear more fruits of repentance in our material life, let us apply the advice of Jesus: “Remain in me as I also remain in you.” This week, as we worship with our tithe and regular offerings we can bear fruits of repentance.

—North American Division Stewardship Ministries

WAUS Fall Fundraiser Mailing!

Helping hands needed. Are you looking for a project that is fun to do and really helps a wonderful Andrews organization? WAUS has a large mailing that will be processed/envelope stuffed on Thursday, October 6th starting at 9:00am until every envelope is stuffed! We would love to have you join us. Please call the station at 269-471-3400 to let us know you will be joining us. Looking forward to the joy of working together.

Sabbath School Information

If your Sabbath School class is meeting anywhere on campus other than Pioneer Sanctuary, please send us the location, teacher's name, and time of meeting. This will help compile a master list of all class on campus. Email your class info to Melchizadek Ponniah, melponniah@gmail.com.

True Confidence Seminar

The Pioneer Women’s Ministries is sponsoring the "True Confidence" seminar. Every girl and woman is valued in God’s eyes. Here are some of the topics that will be discussed by our speakers, Lisa Sawvel and Tamara Conway:

  • Personal identity
  • Rejection
  • Labels
  • Emotional pain
  • Negative messages
  • Life choices
  • Lies we believe
  • Being a people pleaser
  • How to master our emotions
  • Developing emotional maturity
  • Who Jesus says we are
  • How the Gospel addresses our fears
  • How the Holy Spirit helps us move from coping to healing

The Director of Women's Ministries for the Michigan Conference, Jane Harris, will also be joining us, along with Brianna Kittleson, Public Campus Ministries administrative assistant. We pray you will join us for this inspiring seminar.

October 1, 2022, 2:30 PM
Location: Pioneer Youth Chapel

Pre-register by texting the word VALUED to 269-281-2345. More questions?  Email Yolande.Robertson@pmchurch.org

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